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The Complexity of Healing
One of the things that makes emotional healing so difficult is that it is not simple and straight forward. If it were, then few would experience difficulty with coming to terms with the things that happen to them. It would be nice if it the process were simple and straight forward, but it simple is not. 
 
What make healing so difficult? Simply put, we are not only designed in an amazingly complex fashion, but we live in a world which has experienced something very foreign to the original design... human depravity, which is an old fashioned way of saying human selfishness and Ego. That variable complicated everything, since that adds something to the mix which is extremely impactful and hard to process... namely hurtfulness and injustice. It is tough enough to resolve the "natural losses" we all face. But, it is an entirely different matter when selfishness compound the impact by wounding in a hurtful fashion. That is the root of injustice, and that is the source of the greatest pain.
 
It would be one thing to only have to resolve experiencing the loss of someone we loved. That has sufficient pain in itself to incapacitate us. But add on top of that hurtfulness and, in some cases, actual evil, that compounds things exponentially. And, that is exactly what most Survivors have experienced. And, without realizing it, the pain and the losses begin to accumulate, building one on top of the other, layering one on top of the other. The end result becomes a mountain of unresolved loss. Some layers more significant than others, but all combine to create a tremendous force to be dealt with if left unattended. 
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When trying to heal, survivors are often unaware of how repercussions from the abuse have been impacting their lives.  For proper and thorough healing to take place, it is important that they understand the lasting effects which prevent them from regaining their voice and their personal power. 
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On an ongoing basis, either through written resources or podcasts, we will take time to look at each of the various dynamics in depth.
So, what are some of the necessary issues that need to be addressed by survivors in order for them to heal effectively while on the journey to wholeness?
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Here are some of the primary issues:
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Effects of Trauma
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Understandings the relationship between stress, burnout, and emotions
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What are our emotions, and what purpose do they serve?
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Theological implications of abuse, such as:
  • Understanding why the abuse happened if God is a loving God
  • Understanding where God is in the midst of a survivor's pain
  • Is a survivor supposed to forgive the abuser no matter what?
  • What about "generational curses"?
  • Are there "8 steps" to healing, or some other type of inner healing that can provide quick relief?
  • What happens if a survivor went through some type of spiritual inner healing, and the "healing" did not last?
  • What happens if parts of a survivor want nothing to do with God, and are angry at Him for allowing bad things, and for not having stopped the abuse?
  • What is a survivor supposed to think, when the abuse happened in the church, and it was covered up?
  • Can a survivor of abuse or domestic violence divorce the perpetrator?
  • What about a husband who is addicted to porn? Can the wife divorce him?
  • What does it mean to honor one's parents when the abuser is a parent?
  • What do you do if your church allows a known perpetrator to attend your church?
  • What do you do if the perpetrator says he is sorry, and wants the past to be in the past?
  • What do you  do if your perpetrator "found God" while in prison, and now he wants to be able to "move past" what happened?
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The importance of conscience and intuition, and how they are impacted by sexual abuse
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The importance of personal boundaries
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The emotional impact resulting from boundaries being violated
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Characteristics of Healthy Families vs. Dysfunctional Families
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Dysfunctional Families vs. Toxic Families
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The difference between human error and purposeful intentions
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The toxic dynamics of, and differences between, narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths
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The methods of grooming and manipulation used in sexual exploitation and abuse
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The process of the perpetrator of gaining emotional and psychological control over the victim
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What to expect when a perpetrator is confronted
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The mental gymnastics and tactics used by the predator as he attempts to shift responsibility away from himself.
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